Moving to a new place, divorce, re-marriage or the first day of school could arouse a sense of anxiety and fear in your child. While some children easily show their fear and share their issues with their primary caregivers, some find it hard to show off their anxiety. This could further lead to poor adjustments and behavioral problems within your child. Always remember, just because your child finds it hard to explain his/her fear in front of you, doesn’t mean that he/she is not anxious about the new situations. For some children, adjusting to a new environment could be relatively more challenging than the others. Therefore, it comes down to you to act rationally, keep your cool and offer him/her unconditional support when dealing with your child. Your support and regard will help your child face his/her fears and cope up with the new situations more effectively. If your child has also been exposed to a new situation, and he/she is not effectively dealing with the same, you need to get your act together to help your child out to overcome his anxiety or fear. Here are some tips that you need to follow:
1. Be calm
Changes in your life could bestow you with some anxiety as well. Don’t show them off in front of your kids. If your child sees in you in an anxious state of mind, he/she could also pick up your emotions. So, make sure that you stay calm when facing a new situation.
2. Scrutinize your child’s routine
During the changes, see what your child’s routine is like. Is he/she hungry often? Or, is he/she feel sleepy all the time? Noticing these small things could help you unravel his emotional and physical state. Once you notice any significant changes, work them out by being with him/her while exposing him/her to the new situations.
3. Remain patient throughout
Don’t expect for things to become normal in a jiffy. Be patient as it might take more time than expected for your child to feel relaxed and comfortable in the new environment. Rushing things up could only affect your child’s progress.
4. Make a way for your child to deal with his/her fears
Help your child familiarize with the new situations or conditions. Be with him as a support. For example, when your child is attending his/her first day of school, walk him/her to the school. Talk with his/her teachers and peers and help your child establish new relationships. Easing the child to deal with any change will certainly lessen his/her fear level.
5. Don’t hinder his/her usual routine
Let your child do whatever he/she used to do before. Making a new, defined set of routine would not help your kid cope with his fears. For instance, if you have moved to a new house, don’t keep your son from exploring the outside lawn, even if you are not yourself acquainted with the neighborhood quite well. Keep some of the souvenirs from the last place such as his favorite baseball bat or her favorite doll. These small things act a comfort zone for your child. If you feel your child is feeling anxious, just allow him/her to play with their comforts.
When your child looks upset or anxious, it is your responsibility to offer him/her the undivided environment of comfort. And, most importantly, it is also incumbent for you to not lose your cool. Of course, it could be extremely challenging for you, as a parent, to maintain your mental equilibrium while dealing with an anxious child, but doing so will only help your child in coping up with his/her fears.